Prescription
for a Broken Heart
by Alina Ruigrok |
Being heartbroken is a
pain that no one can
understand until they
have experienced it for
themselves. You
obviously have,
therefore are aware of
how fragile your heart
is right now. Healing a
broken heart will take
time, but is not
impossible, though it
may feel that way at the
time. It is never an
easy process to go
through, but with the
right prescription, you
will be on your way to
recovery and happiness
again.
The first thing you
should keep in mind is
that it is okay to feel
sad and grieve about
what happened and that
you are not stupid for
doing so. It is
perfectly normal to feel
sad and cry after a
break up. You have
invested most of your
time and all of your
love and interest into
your ex-partner;
therefore will go
through a sad and
painful withdrawal. It
is notable that you not
grieve all on your own.
Sure, there will be
times when you will just
want to be alone and
undisturbed. However, it
is important that you
talk to your friends and
family about it. Talking
about it is not only
healthy, but will mend
your heart quicker
because you will release
the thoughts and facts
that are hurting you so
much. Seeking
professional advice will
be a great help to you
as well because your
mind will open up and
see new perspectives and
understandings of what
happened. It will help
you gather your
strength, pick yourself
up, and find the
happiness you deserve to
have.
Accepting the fact that
you and your ex-partner
are no longer together
is a necessity if you
are going to start
mending your broken
heart. If you catch
yourself unable to
function due to
constantly thinking
about your ex or
repeatedly calling or
visiting him or her for
another chance, then
chances are you are
suffering from love
addiction and should
seek counseling.
Discontinuing a serious
relationship is
emotionally challenging
and can drive you to do
things that are
unhealthy for your
self-being. To avoid
entering such hazardous
areas, keep yourself
occupied. Go out with
your friends and family
to help get your mind
off the break up. It is
best to spend as less
time alone as you can in
the first few weeks of
your breakup so that
your emotions can slowly
and patiently form back
into their normal
pattern.
Fight the thoughts that
tell you that you are a
failure and are to blame
for the end of your
relationship. When a
relationship ends it
means that the two of
you were no longer
compatible and that
always takes two, not
just you. Instead of
beating yourself up over
what has transpired,
examine your
ex-relationship by
listing the things you
enjoyed most about it
and then the things that
disappointed you and
what you believe really
caused the breakup. Look
at the relationship as a
learning experience and
an opportunity to
improve your
relationship skills, and
a way to realize what
you truly need and want
from a romantic
relationship.
Learning to forgive
yourself and your
ex-lover will speed up
the healing process for
the reason that you will
feel more peaceful and
calm about it. Hating
your ex will only build
up tension and stress in
your life, causing your
emotions to slow down
from getting back to
order. One way to avoid
bitterness against your
ex-partner is to look at
the breakup as a favor.
Appreciate their honesty
of no longer wanting to
pursue the relationship,
instead of giving you
high hopes for a
possible future
together. It is always
an advantage to exit a
relationship that had no
chances to survive than
to be misled.
Conquer your fear of
being alone. You need to
help yourself understand
that it is not abnormal
to be on your own and
that your values come
from who are rather than
whom you are with. Teach
yourself that there is
more to life than
romantic relationships
by spending quality time
with your friends and
family. Learn more about
whom the other people in
your life are and
introduce more of
yourself to them as
well. Go out and do
things together and
treat yourself to
something you enjoy,
whether it is your
favorite restaurant,
shopping, going to the
movies, or anything
else. Learning to you be
your own best friend
will not only improve
your relationship with
yourself, but with
others as well. As you
begin to discover the
other beauties of life
and yourself, you will
become more stable and
stronger to face
anything that crosses
your path, such as a new
relationship in the
future.
Before you consider
entering another
relationship, take a
step back and ask
yourself why you want to
do so. Make sure that
you are not entering a
new relationship on a
rebound. This will only
leave you with
unfinished emotions and
you will never have
closure from your former
relationship. Never
begin a new relationship
because you are afraid
of being on your own, or
feel the need to just be
in a relationship. Form
a relationship with
someone new because you
feel strong and secure
on your very own and
feel that you are ready
to attempt a new
romance. Take it one
step at a time and keep
in mind of what your
needs and desires are
from a person and
observe closely to see
if they show signs of
the qualities you are
looking for. As soon as
you notice that he or
she is not, then get out
of it as soon as
possible. Learning from
your previous
relationships will come
in very handy because
you will be able to
prevent similar
situations in the
future, leading you to
meeting the people who
fit your description of
a perfect partner.
Lastly, remind yourself
that love is a wonderful
feeling and experience
and should not be
generalized based on
your past experiences.
Do not use facts about
your ex as a way to
judge new people in your
life. Leave your past
behind you and focus on
moving ahead. Get to
know new people for who
they are, not by
comparing them to
others, what they are
not, or what they could
be. Once you have
observed their
personality, values and
everything else, trust
yourself to make the
right decisions without
constantly doubting
yourself. If you wish to
try having a new
relationship, then do
so. If you do not
however, then do not
feel guilty to kindly
walk away from the
situation. You would be
doing both you and the
other a person a huge
favor and saving time
and emotions from being
hurt. You have nothing
to fear or worry about.
After all, there will
always be one person who
will always love you,
appreciate who you are
and be there for you. .
. and that is YOU.
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| About
the Author |
| Alina
Ruigrok is an
independent relationship
expert for www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need of
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