Feel
Your Grief
by Rinatta Paries |
I
recently asked a friend
of mine who has been
single for several years
if she was complete with
her past relationships.
It's been my experience
that one cannot move
forward into healthy new
relationships until they
are complete with their
past. My friend said she
had no feelings left
about her old
relationships.
After a little prodding,
she admitted she had
managed to get over her
divorce by getting into
a relationship quickly
after her marriage
ended. "I was
amazed at how easily I
could forget my
husband," she said.
Her relationship with
her new boyfriend lasted
only a few months, and
yet she says she still
has feelings for him.
Is my friend ready for
another new
relationship? Perhaps if
she wants her next
relationship to closely
resemble her previous
two. But not if she
wants something
different.
The only way to forget a
former relationship as
soon as you enter a new
one is by avoiding your
feelings of grief over
the breakup. You would
instead look for the new
relationship to fill you
up.
The only way to do this
is to hold your needs,
wants, and desires
trapped in your heart,
unfelt, unmet, and
waiting for the next
partner. Although most
singles think this is
what they are supposed
to do, it is not.
How do you feel about
your past relationships?
Have you swept your
feelings under the rug?
Are you still secretly
pining for someone?
If so, remember that as
long as you don't allow
yourself to feel the
affects of a breakup,
you will recreate
exactly what you had in
the past. If you want
something different-- a
fulfilling relationship
-- you have to allow
yourself to feel.
(c)
Rinatta Paries,
1998-2002. Do you know
how to attract your
ideal mate? Do you know
how to build a
fulfilling relationship,
or how to reinvent yours
to meet your needs?
Relationship Coach
Rinatta Paries can teach
you the skills and
techniques to attract
and sustain long-term,
healthy partnerships.
Visit
www.WhatItTakes.com
where you'll find
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| About
the Author |
Having coined the phrase
"relationship
coach," Master
Certified Coach Rinatta
Paries works with
singles to help them
attract their ideal
relationship, and helps
couples create more love
and fulfillment in their
existing relationships.
Visit her web site at
www.WhatItTakes.com or
e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
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