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Seeing Good or Available
Partners
Author: Rinatta Paries
Singles frequently complain to
me that *all* men or *all*
women
are...well, they don't use a
very flattering description.
Another version of this is,
"There are no good men or
women
left." Or its cousins,
"There are no good men or
women where I
live," and "Where do
I find good men or
women?"
My response is that we bring
into our lives a reflection of
what
we believe and focus on. We
are only able to see what we
believe
we will see. The belief comes
first and then the reality. If
you
subscribe to any version of
the above, you will make
yourself
right and create your
experience accordingly.
Let me give you a simple
example of what it's like to
see what
you focus on. When you admire
or want a certain type of car,
don't you see it everywhere?
All those cars were there
before
you focused on them, never
noticed by you. Your desire or
admiration makes them more
visible over other cars.
Now here's an example of
seeing what you believe you
will see.
If you are expecting someone
to be angry or unpleasant,
don't
they end up being that way?
Perhaps they were not angry at
all,
or not angry at you. If you
had no expectation of their
behavior, would they behave
the same?
The issue is not about what
types of singles are in your
community or whether there are
any good men or women left. It
is
not about men and women out
there at all, because you
don't need
many men or women to be a
particular way. What you want
and need
is one compatible partner. And
this one partner is waiting
for
you to change your belief
about what you will see and
make him
or her visible to you.
About the author:
Having coined the phrase
"relationship
coach," Master Certified
Coach Rinatta Paries works
with singles to help them
attract
their ideal relationship, and
helps couples create more love
and
fulfillment in their existing
relationships. Visit her web
site
at www.WhatItTakes.com or
e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
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