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Surviving a Long Distance
Relationship
Author: Alina Ruigrok
Challenging and difficult,
though they may not be what we
want
to hear, are the words that
best describe long distance
relationships. Keep in mind
however, that the words are
challenging and difficult, not
impossible. Many people choose
to
give a long distance
relationship a try, with the
constant
curiosity if it was the right
decision to make and if it
even
stands a chance. The truth is,
a long distance relationship
has
just as much a chance of
succeeding as any other
relationship!
Long Distance Relationships
share the same facts as an
average
relationship. It involves two
people who share an interest
in
each other’s lives, care for
one another and of course have
a
love for each other that they
hope will only continue to
grow.
On the other hand, a long
distance relationship does
have its
differences as well. It takes
away your ability to see each
other on a frequent note, as
well as the choice of being
intimate whenever you desire,
not to mention that there
would be
major trust required. Being
unable to spend time together
in a
physical presence makes it
harder to hang on to, but does
not
spell out doom for your
relationship.
The first step is to make an
agreement of what your
expectations
are in the relationship and
how much of a commitment you
are
willing to give and receive.
If the two of you decide to be
monogamous, then it is clear
that neither of you will be
dating
anyone else as long as your
romantic relationship exists.
Being
clear about what you both want
is extremely important,
especially in a long distance
relationship, in order to
prevent
future misunderstandings and
mistakes. Do not feel afraid
to
tell your partner what you
really need and want from him
or her,
you deserve the chance to
speak from your heart and he
or she
deserves to know the truth and
judge whether they can give it
to
you.
Trust is a major necessity if
you wish to have your
relationship
from a distance. Without trust
and honesty, the relationship
is
in for danger and
unsuccessfulness, just as it
would be any
other relationship. By
accepting the challenge of a
long
distance relationship, you
also accepted the fact that
you will
have to have the trust and
faith that your partner will
not be
seeing anyone else as
promised. Being paranoid and
accusing will
only grow doubts, insecurity
and tension between you and
none of
those three will help the
relationship survive
successfully.
Keeping each other informed of
the friendships you have with
other people and the events
that take place in your
personal
life is a great way to keep
your relationship alive and
healthy;
and continues to make your
partner a part of your life.
It is
essential that you receive the
same information from your
partner as well, so you both
feel the same security and
satisfaction that you both
crave. Be creative with the
way you
keep in touch, such as
calling, e-mailing, faxing and
sending
cards. Pay attention to how
many times a week you are
staying in
touch as well. If you want
your bond to stay strong and
loving,
you have to hear from one
another often, leaving as
little room
for any of you to start
getting paranoid about
anything.
Although you cannot be
romantic towards each other on
a physical
note, you can still perform
romantic acts that will keep
the
romance department happy. You
can do this by sending love
letters and poems, having
flowers and gifts delivered,
or even
sending a video of yourself
with a loving message.
Reminding
your partner of how much you
think about and love him or
her
will score high points, making
them miss you more with the
constant urge to see you.
Planning reunions play a big
part in keeping your
relationship
exciting, plus serve you the
satisfaction of being able to
see
and touch each other
occasionally. It gives you the
opportunity
to catch up on each other’s
life in person and to be able
to
share physical and intimate
activities together, which
will
fulfill both of your needs and
desires. Not re-uniting every
once in a while will only
damage the relationship you
have, so
if one of you are not willing
to visit the other
occasionally,
then you may need to question
the interest and care your
partner
has for you and should
probably end the relationship
and move
on. If you and your partner
truly want this to work out,
then
you will both continue to be
eager to see each other as
often as
you can and every time to have
the chance to.
Setting a limit of how long
you will be apart is a wise
thing to
do if you do not want to end
up waiting forever. There will
be a
day when you and your partner
will have to start planning a
serious future, which can only
happen when you are living in
the
same area or perhaps even
living together, whichever
makes you
most comfortable. If none of
you are willing to agree on a
place
to settle and start having a
relationship where you see
each
other on a regular basis, then
you can pretty much forget
about
accomplishing anything out of
your long distance
relationship.
If your partner truly loves
you and wants to be with you,
then
they would not want to wait
forever to be with you.
With the right amount of
effort and interest on both
parts, a
long distance relationship can
survive the obstacles it will
frequently be challenged with.
As long as you both refresh
your
memories of why you chose to
do this in the first place,
trust
each other, inform one another
of your personal lives, keep
in
touch, and visit, your
relationship can turn out to
be one of
the most successful and happy
relationships that ever
existed.
You both will be secure, happy
and satisfied until the day
comes
when you will re-unite for
good and build your wonderful
future
together.
About the author:
Alina Ruigrok is an
independent relationship
expert for
http://www.love-sessions.com
helping those in need of
dating,
relationship, marital, sexual
and other personal advice
through
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