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Ways to be Romantic
Author: Rinatta Paries
Rarely does Valentine's Day
pass by without your notice.
Even if
you are single and think the
day has no significance, the
day
will arrive and you will want
a relationship more than
usual. If
you are in a relationship and
Valentine's Day does not get
celebrated, it will leave hurt
and resentment in its wake.
I invite you to think of
Valentine's Day as "Focus
on Love Day,"
as opposed to "Hurt About
Lack of Love Day" or
"Ignore Being
Single Day."
Below you will find ways to
make your "Focus on Love
Day"
extraordinarily romantic,
whether you are in a long-term
relationship, dating, or are
single.
A note for people who are in a
new relationships, or who are
dating someone but are not in
a committed relationship. At
the
beginning of a relationship,
it is best not to have too any
expectations about how
Valentine's Day will be
celebrated. It is
also best not to get
disappointed if it is not
celebrated in
just the way you would want.
In time, as you and your
partner
get closer, both of you will
be able to celebrate
Valentine's
Day and other holidays in more
meaningful ways.
This Valentine's Day, create a
perfect "Focus on Love
Day" for
yourself, regardless of what
your dating partner may or may
not
have planned for you. Look at
the suggestions for singles
below.
Then, do something small, but
meaningful for your dating
partner. Look for suggestions
for couples below, but tone
the
activity down a bit.
And now, 10 ways to make your
"Focus on Love Day"
extraordinarily romantic:
1. The Perfect Day
Couples: See if you can start
to notice what your lover
dreams
about, wishes for. Listen for
small, attainable things that
can
make a big difference.
Alternatively, subtly question
your lover
about what he/she pictures as
the perfect Valentine's Day.
Now
take the information you have
gathered and make it into a
perfect day for him or her.
Singles: If you had a partner,
what would you have him or her
do
to create your perfect
Valentine's Day? Create it for
yourself -
love yourself that much.
2. The Perfect Card + One
Perfect Rose
Couples: Buy or make a lovely
card and then fill it to the
brim
with words of love, admiration
and appreciation. By
"fill it to
the brim," I mean leave
no white space untouched.
Present it
with one perfect rose.
Singles: Buy or make a lovely
card for yourself, and just as
above, fill it to the brim
with words you want to hear
from your
future lover. Seal the
envelope and open it on
Valentine's Day.
Present it to yourself with
one perfect rose.
3. Valentine's Day is Not Just
for Women
Couples: Ladies, I have it on
good authority that guys want
to
be celebrated too. So get him
flowers and candy and a card,
too.
Singles: Guys, give yourself
that same wonderful
Valentine's Day
as a relationship partner
would give you. You may feel
silly,
but you will also feel good.
4. Say Goodbye to Obligation,
Say Hello to Open Heart
Couples: Don't give or do
anything out of obligation
this
Valentine's Day. Give only
from your heart, from love and
treasuring your partner. No
matter how good or bad your
relationship is going, get in
touch with how much you truly
love
and appreciate your partner.
Give from that space.
Singles: Don't beat yourself
up for not having a partner.
You
have not failed. You are not
bad. Valentine's Day can be
"Focus
on Love for Yourself Day"
as easily as "Focus on
Love for
Another Day."
5. The Gift of Undivided
Attention
Couples: Give your partner the
gift of undivided attention
and
see if she or he doesn't find
that the most romantic thing
going.
Singles: Give yourself the
gift of your own undivided
attention.
Take away all of the
distractions and be with
yourself the way
you would want your partner to
be with you.
6. Gift of Communication, I
Couples: Men, allow your woman
to talk about whatever her
heart
desires, and listen. Ladies,
let your man talk or answer
your
question without finishing his
sentences for him,
interrupting
him, or moving on to the next
topic. See if this doesn't
make
sparks fly.
Singles: Either find a person
who will listen to you the way
you
need to be heard, or give
yourself space and time to
listen to
your own thoughts and feelings
or to journal.
7. Gift of Communication, II
Couples: Ladies, give your man
the gift of sitting down next
to
him in silence. No talking
allowed. Men, give your lady
the gift
of talking and sharing from
your heart. No closing down,
walling
up or running away allowed.
Singles: Either silence or
open heart, give yourself
whichever
one you need.
8. A Gift with Interest
Couples: Is your partner into
computers, and you don't know
a
mouse from a monitor? Or is
she into gardening, but to you
a
rose is just a rose? Give your
partner the gift of your
interest
in something that is important
to him or her. Go ahead, ask
your
partner a question about it
and see the smile light up his
or
her face.
Singles: Give yourself the
gift of time to pursue your
important
interests. Take the time to do
something that nourishes you
and
makes you happy.
9. The Trust
Couples: Ladies, give the man
in your life the gift of
trusting
him to know how and when to
take care of himself and you.
Trust
that he will do the best he
can for Valentine's Day.
Gentlemen,
hold her trust sacred, and
learn to listen for subtle
requests.
Then honor them. The
celebration of love will feel
good to both
of you.
Singles: Today, trust your
process and your fate. Today,
trust
that you too will be loved and
cherished by a partner. Today,
remember all the people who
already love and cherish you.
10. A Shower of Words
Couples: Write your loved one
a love letter or poem and read
it
to them on Valentine's Day.
Here come the tears.
Singles: Write yourself a love
letter or poem, exactly the
way
you would want it written by a
lover. Read it to yourself out
loud and have Kleenex ready.
Plan to have a happy
Valentine's Day!
About the author:
With nearly a decade of
relationship coaching
experience, Master
Certified Coach Rinatta Paries
works with singles to help
them
attract their ideal
relationship, and helps
couples create more
love and fulfillment in their
existing relationships. Visit
her
web site at
www.WhatItTakes.com or e-mail
her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.
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